“The structure of my life shifted so much that I didn’t know how to relate to this new version, you know?” she elaborated. “My parents got divorced, and I went through this stuff with my career really starting. It all happened at once.”

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A huge comfort in getting older that it “crystallizes your life,” although, now Stone wonders “What do I actively want as an adult?”

The actress’ focus is “personal and less professional now,” including thinking about marriage and kids more seriously. “My perspective about kids has changed as I’ve gotten older,” she said. “I never babysat or anything. As a teenager, I was like, ‘I’m never getting married, I’m never having kids.’ And then I got older and I was like, ‘I really want to get married, I really want to have kids.'”

The most significant thing Stone is remembering as she moves forward is learning to let go. “It’s less thinking about the next 10 years and what needs to happen, and just sort of relaxing into what will be instead of trying to control the outcome.”

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